Friday, October 14, 2016

8-4-4 and how it almost ruined us had we let it and the teachers that made it worthwhile.




 So one evening this week after one of those days, I was in a Kawangware matatu, they were playing good reggae so  of course I zoomed out and was so engrossed in composing a story in my head for my- This Chic series- when the conductor opened the door and said, Kairitu ga kĩnoo, ũka.(girl going to Kinoo, please come) and he pressed a 20 bob coin in my palm. I was happy, he gave me my due change since they stopped before my drop off point, 20 shillings away and he didn’t shout at me to harakisha! He humanised me.

And then something clicked in my brain. A few years after high school, (many years ago) I whined a lot about the 8-4-4 system and how it wasn’t meant for people like me. And how disappointing it was to look at the University registration forms and find that none of the courses listed on the form interested me. And how scoring A’s in languages meant nothing if you didn’t have a good grade in Chemistry regardless of never having the desire to be a scientist. The thing with the system was, it taught us how to pass exams and little about co-existence with our fellow humans, just to mention one thing. You just needed the right combination, never mind the fact that maybe you liked Geography, it was  more interesting to you, than SAAAAY  History?
 
 I liked these

And at 15, they asked me to choose between Agriculture and Christian Religious Education.
I was scoring 80% in CRE and maybe 50 % in Agriculture. I chose Agriculture.  I didn’t understand much of it, I didn’t know which fertilizer was supposed to be put in when and which leaves made cows produce more milk. My kales wilted a week after planting and in the end I got an average grade as I expected. It didn’t help with my marks, and the days I spent weeding that kale garden didn’t make me a better farmer.

But I now know why I chose Agriculture and not CRE and ruined my chance of succeeding in the 8-4-4 system.

The Agriculture teacher. He was called Mr Gitonga. We had a nickname for him which I forgot, even the other teachers had a nickname for him. I’ll describe him. He hardly ever attended morning assembly. You would never find him in the staffroom. You could find him in the Agriculture lab, but not often.

He discouraged us from using three different colored pens to take down notes. He said “you just need to underline the headings.” He also said we didn’t need to get a new exercise book every term, “just leave a blank page to show where a new term began.” 

When he was on duty, you knew you would be ok. He didn’t stop you randomly on your way to
Downloos, (our daytime latrines) to ask where you were going, he just ignored you and you ran very quickly coz you were not sure what he was thinking. Students said he was weird. I thought he was interesting. 

He was human. He was real. And every time I went into his lectures, I didn’t learn much agriculture, but I felt enriched. He would quote from books. I went in for the valuable life lessons he taught. And while everyone was being too prim and uptight, he did his lectures and let alone the sideshows.

As he dictated notes, he would throw in a hefty speech about life. Like how teenage girls think they have everything sorted out but they do not. Later we found out he had a teenage girl in another school when she came to conduct Christian Union services during her midterm.

I have always been attracted to knowledge and honor. If I meet a person that knows more than me and is willing to share the knowledge, I want to make them my best friend. I am also drawn to people that honor themselves. People who stand up for what they know is right, people who don't get carried away. Men and women of honor.

So while 8-4-4 refused to acknowledge my desire for in-depth knowledge, I still subconsciously knew what I wanted in life, what kind of knowledge I needed.

That’s what clicked, when the konda called me Kairitu ga Kĩnoo and made me feel like a star in my own one man guitar song.


Monday, October 10, 2016

5 Songs to get you out of your mid-life rut.




mid·life cri·sis
noun
noun: mid-life crisis
  1. an emotional crisis of identity and self-confidence that can occur in early middle age.
 If you haven't got it yet, it will come. You will wonder are you doing the right thing? Are you mixing company with the right people? Are you wearing the right clothes? Are you in the wrong career? Should you  be raising kids? Should you go back to high school? Move back home? Go to another country?Quit your job? Quit your business. e.t.c

These songs will be very useful. Trust me. I have a mid-life crisis every other week.


That's life- Frank Sinatra

So you have tried everything and nothing seems to work. Have you been a puppet yet? A, basi you need to get back on the race.


 I know one thing

Each time I find myself flat on my face

I pick myself up and get back in the race


That's life (that's life) I tell ya, I can't deny it

I thought of quitting, baby

But my heart just ain't gonna buy it.

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gbm1cHQ7upw
Fabulous by Jaheim
This is a song you will need often. There are times you will feel like keeping your head down but humming this little tune will remind you to only look down to check out how great your new boots look. Watch the video here. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nv13TCH4Fk4
And never G I V E U P

And keep your H E A D U P

And never G I V E U P

And keep your H E A D U P

Ghetto People song by Everton Blender

I like the beat to this song and I like the way he says only ghetto people can sing this one. So if you are a ghetto mid-lifer, this is a good tune for you. Earth is just a big ghetto anyway.

Ghetto people, you try to reach the top

Whether you get the help from mister big or not, yeah

So it's a ghetto people song, only them can sing this

one
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gbm1cHQ7upw

Aaliya- Try Again

The message is different here, but whatever mid-life crisis you are facing just imagine  Aaliya was singing this to you:

If  at first you don't succeed (first you don't succeed)
Dust yourself off, and try again
You can dust it off and try again, try again
'Cause if at first you don't succeed (first you don't succeed)
You can dust it off and try again
Dust yourself off and try again, try again


 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aRcAvsZgjXA
DNA- Banjuka
and then there are those issues you cannot fix, when you are trying to balance social issues, work, interests and life itself and it's starting to get out of control.... DNA  has some good advice.
Just listen to the chorus, the rest might depress you more.

Ruka juu
banjuka tu
life ni fupi
na mi sijifungi 
naweka shida chini natupa mikono juu
ba ba banjuka tu. 

Jump up, life is short
put your problems down
throw your hands up
then go and read this article to find out if you have the symptoms 
 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/12/12/midlife-crisis_n_4419481.html

Saturday, October 8, 2016

Alzheimers and Dementia- What's it's about.


It's about looking at you and wandering why you look familiar,
yes,
you my daughter.

It's about loosing things,
everything,
and looking and looking and not finding
and getting frustrated,
then fearful when you scold me.


It's about covering up for my memory,
Pretending to be tough and fine and in control.

It's about groping for words and names and ideas
and songs I used to know
and not grasping any, hating the world.

 It's about waking up in darkness, scared
 not finding the door for the rest of the night.

Nightmares in the night
Hallucinations in the day
Dejavu
and premonitions.

It's about arguments we have.
Arguments we'll have;
if you refuse my reality.

It's about losing friends and family and sleep.

It's about being in a cell so tight where no voice,
No strength,
And no amount of wishing can get me out.




It's about drugs and  nausea and bowel issues.
It's about being alone and wondering
why I'm so cold,
or so hot,
or so hungry.

It's about loud whispers behind my back.
I hold my tongue.

Within me  my spirit fights.
I restrain it

I'll be happy today.


Wednesday, September 28, 2016

THIS CHIC- 5 girls you will meet in your lifetime.



Harriet

In her book Emma, Jane Austen creates a character called Harriet who is too good natured but naive. When she meets Emma, she falls into the latter’s shadow and all her insecurities come out.
do I look pretty in this?

Emmmmmaaa, you are so smart

A Harriet is a girl who is full of good intentions but has little confidence in herself. She constantly needs someone to reassure her.She will put on some lipstick, but wipe it off if her Emma asks why she put on lipstick today. She will like a guy but will not go out with him until Emma says it’s okay.
Harriet will be unsteady until she has an Emma, she tries to make an Emma out of everybody she meets, so in a sense she is a groupie, not going anywhere alone.If you are an Emma, you just found your hand bag.

Bwanangu
This is a recently married girl, two or three years in a marriage . Her husband is the best thing second only to her love of cooking. She will talk about him, of him and like him to everybody in the plot. If she is from Coast, she will talk of mume wangu this mume wangu that. If she is from Western, it will be bwanangu, a Nairobi wife will talk of mzee wangu, a wife from Central Kenya but living in Nairobi will talk of ‘my husband’ and you will all be watching to see this husband, perform  miracle at least will you.
This chick only buys new clothes from boutiques and Garissa lodge.

East Africa's Next Top Model 
This is a girl I like to study. Her best skill is looking mean at everybody. Her sense of style is NYC to the minute. She is not afraid to dress up in bare backs and wear big hair. She doesn’t smile. No.
She is skilled at is baring teeth at other girls. She will have fake nails and a shinny handbag. She will only wear heels and animal print wedges. But she will have some secret fear when you get to know her. Like she will always be on edge, she might be terrified of bus conductors and River road.
She walks as though paparazzi was at her heels, so you can never have a real conversation with her coz she has to have the right face just in case someone took a picture. 

My dad my hero

 
This one you know. She is her daddy’s princess and daddy is her only hero, and she will remind you every day. My dad said if I don’t spend all the money in my account by the 5th of this month I will only get two credit cards next month.  My dad said vegetables are for rabbits and goats.Yeah. And you will look at her in horror and sympathy and hope nobody else heard that.
Surprisingly, it's not easy to hate this girl. You realise she is just silly and feel bad for her when she is sad about something, coz the world can be unforgiving. You pity the fellow she will marry but then you remember it's non of your business. 

Rory Gilmore

This is a girl you will like, but you may never reach friendship levels with her because she will have one best friend from childhood, and she will have several admirers. Regardless of her background, she will not let that affect her. She has a stable mind, she got good grades, she eats good food and uses a perfume that smells like baby fabric softner. She will have an expensive watch and a locket either given by her big brother or her mother. She can't drive though, for her tendency to daydream
She will marry a family friend she has known since childhood.  

Next:the squinter, the tomboy, hurry!while stocks last, miss etiquette

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